The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
The Pleasure Principles Podcast explores where sex, science, and sensuality intersect. Hosted by Dr. Jordin Wiggins, a naturopathic doctor, entrepreneur, and author of The Pink Canary, the show works to change how women's sexual health, wellness, and pleasure are taught and discussed. Episodes offer education and open conversation aimed at helping women better understand and embrace their sexual health. The podcast challenges taboos and provides practical insights for a more empowered approach to pleasure.
Episodes
3 Things High-Achievers With Low Libido Are Craving That's Blocking Pleasure (Pt3)
95% of men in a recent study admitted to using at least one coercive strategy to get a woman to have sex she did not want or was not consenting to. Asking repeatedly. Using alcohol. Using force. Telling her what she wants to hear, the most used one of all. Your body knows when this is happening to you, even if you do not have the language for it. Even if your therapist cannot pick up on it. She is
3 Things High-Achievers With Low Libido Are Craving That's Blocking Pleasure (Pt2)
Slowing down was the first step. Letting go is the next. LISTEN TO EPISODE 1 HERE (Slowness) LISTEN TO EPISODE 2 HERE LISTEN TO EPISODE 3 HERE (Being Ravished) You've spent your entire life in control. In the OR, in the boardroom, with your clients, in your home, in your relationships. Control keeps you competent; it makes you feel useful; it's your identity. And the way we do one thing is the way
3 Things High-Achievers With Low Libido Are Craving That's Blocking Pleasure (Pt1)
Book a Pleasure Path assessment and let's find out where you are on this journey. I've worked with thousands of women over the last 11 years in sexual health, women's health, hormones, and what underlies it all is pleasure. I'm decoding the top three things I've found most women are craving more of in the bedroom. Sexless marriages are on the rise. More women are staying single than ever. We don'
Stop People Pleasing & Become a "Turned-On" Woman
If you have a responsive desire and feel like your turn-on has gone missing under stress, work, and people-pleasing, this one's for you. Superwomen, receivers are turned on. That's the whole secret. When we're in our high-achieving, fix-it, crusty mode, the pleasure centers in our brain are off. But receivers have walked the pleasure path, and we know our super traits and our people-pleasing habit
Praise Kink - Why You Can't Receive a Compliment (And What It's Costing You in Bed)
I want to share something a friend sent me. We've known each other for sixteen years now, and she wrote that I would have compliments injected into my veins if I could. I blushed reading it, because that has not always been true for me. There was a version of me that deflected every compliment, minimized it, denied it, said something like "oh, I'm just doing my job." That version had desire, but i
How People-Pleasing Is Ruining Your Health and Hormones
You have a very full life, yet a very empty feeling. You're competent. You're reliable. You're the person everyone calls. And somewhere underneath all of the planning, the executing, the managing, the performing, you've lost your spark, your desire, your turn-on. When I sit across from a woman and ask what she does for fun, what turns you on, what she desires, a lot of times she hasn't thought abo
5 Ways to Increase Desire (and Sex Drive) When You Have None
2 spots remain for private coaching. Apply HERE I had a call with a private coaching client the other day, and she had no libido. We've been here before. We worked together for years, and she was back at a point with no desire. One thing I had to impress upon her: you do not need to want sex to start wanting sex. That's the part no one is talking to us high-achieving women about, and it keeps us s
Childhood Sexual Abuse and your Low Libido with Gwen Levey (TRIGGER WARNING)
TRIGGER WARNING Most women who come to me with low libido, disconnection from their bodies, and no desire for intimacy are carrying something they have never said out loud. Childhood sexual assault. Adult assault. A relationship that slowly stripped them of themselves. A body that checked out because it knew something was wrong before their mind would let them admit it. Gwen Levey is a viral Nashv
The 3 Conditions Women Need Before Desire Comes Back Online
What actually has to exist before initiation means anything, and why most of what we have been taught about desire skips the most important step entirely. The three conditions of safety in a pleasure-centered relationship: physiological safety, clean and continuous consent, and autonomy over your own pleasure. What happens in your nervous system when those conditions are missing? Why do women go n
Why High-Achieving Women Feel Lonely in Their Relationships
Something is missing. You can't quite put your finger on it. You have so much to be grateful for, and yet you feel lonely, undesired, and like you're going through the motions. The sex is a checkbox sex. The texts are efficient, not flirtatious. Nobody's planning dates anymore. And the same fights keep happening on repeat, no matter how hard you try. I'm breaking down one of the biggest reasons hi
What to do When Success Feels Like Survival (This Can't Be Normal)
If you have checked every box, the career, the family, the systems, the health protocols, and you are still waking up exhausted, still carrying the mental load, still the one tracking everything for everyone, this episode is going to name something you have been living but couldn't find the words for. Chanie Wilschanski is a leadership consultant, author, and the woman behind This Can't Be Normal:
Low Libido, Emotional Labor, and Why You're Quiet Quitting Your Marriage
Three clients in two weeks. Same conversation each time. And each time they heard it, it took their breath away. You are overcompensating for a problem that you didn't create. And not only that, it's gonna cost you your sleep, your health, your pleasure. There's an awakening happening right now, and our bodies are not letting us fake it anymore. Not in career, not in the bedroom, not in relations
Why People Are Choosing AI Over Human Relationships with Andrew Phipps
We were taught how to avoid pregnancy and how to avoid STDs. That was it. Nobody taught us about pleasure, desire, or what intimacy is actually supposed to feel like. Nobody taught us what coercion looks like inside a long-term relationship, or that consent is something ongoing and not something you say once and forfeit forever. Nobody told us that the clitoris is literally a pleasure organ, the o
Why You Have No Sex Drive (It's Not What Your Doctor Told You)
You have been told it is low libido. Maybe HSDD. Maybe perimenopause or a hormone problem. But what if your body is working perfectly? What if it is doing exactly what it is designed to do, and the system is the one that is failing you? This is a reintroduction to The Pleasure Principles and to the work. Over the last decade of helping hundreds of women reconnect to their relationships and heal th
What the Clinical Model Gets Wrong About Women's Desire and Pleasure
Most of us are just surviving. Getting through the day. And we know that is not a condition for great sex, intimacy, and pleasure. Kayla Moore is a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapist, and feminine liberation coach who left the clinical model for the same reason so many of us hit a wall. The system wasn't built to support humans, and trying to treat anxiety, depression,
Why Weaponized Incompetence is Decreasing Your Libido
JOIN: HOLD YOUR CENTER: For Women Who Are Done Losing Themselves to Overfunctioning April 29th, 2026 You have asked him to do it 17 times. It is still not done. That is not forgetfulness. That is not ADHD. That is weaponized incompetence, and it is the number one hidden brake on female desire that no one is naming correctly. Weaponized incompetence is when a person performs helplessly in a specifi
The REAL Reason for Low Libido in Relationships (Pt 2)
JOIN: HOLD YOUR CENTER: For Women Who Are Done Losing Themselves to Overfunctioning April 29th, 2026 The same traits that make you exceptional at your career make you exquisitely sensitive to context in sex and relationships. You do not have low desire. You are not inherently bad at relationships. As a high achiever, you are hypervigilant, not high maintenance. Libido is not a fixed biological dri
Is Your Mismatched Libido Really Why You Have a Sexless Marriage (Pt 1)
Something very interesting is happening right now. The women I work with are splitting into two camps. One group is more connected than ever, having better sex than ever. The other group is burning it all down, choosing separation, choosing themselves. Women with super traits do not have a lower capacity for desire. We have a higher sensitivity to everything surrounding it. We are exceptional at t
Mismatched Libidos, Vibrators, and Getting Out of Your Head During Sex (Q&A with Dr. Jordin)
Are you the higher drive partner, wondering why your husband never wants sex as much as you do? Do you feel rejected, undesirable, or like something is wrong with you? You are not broken, and you are not alone. I am answering your most pressing questions about mismatched libidos, how to close the desire gap in your relationship, the best vibrators for women's pleasure, and why a self-pleasure prac
The Reason Your Needs and Desires Are Not Being Met (Hint: You're Not too Needy)
If you are honest with yourself, most high-functioning women already know the answer. Needs are the basics, the foundation. But desire is different. It is where intimacy, connection, and pleasure actually live, and it is the first thing to go when you are overfunctioning. This is what I see every day. Women who are successful, capable, and holding everything together, but feel disconnected in thei
How Pelvic Pain, Constipation, and Painful Sex Are Connected with Kristen Parise
Pelvic health physiotherapy is something many women still do not even know exists. If you are having issues with peeing, pooping, pelvic pain, pressure in the pelvis, constipation, leaking urine, pain with sex, or difficulty reaching orgasm, there is help available. I'm joined by pelvic health physiotherapist Kristen Parise, owner of Blueberry Therapy Pelvic Health and Pediatrics. Kristen has been
Low Libido or Bad Sex? The Truth for High-Achievers
You are lying there, maybe alone, maybe next to someone, and still feeling miles apart. You go to that same place of dissociation during sex. The spark, that erotic aliveness, is nowhere to be found. You have done everything right, checked all the boxes, excelled in so many areas, and now you are asking, what is wrong with me? Am I broken? Low libido, low desire, difficulty getting aroused or stay
How to Transform Your Wardrobe and Rebuild Body Confidence with Chellie Carlson
Chellie Carlson is a transformational wardrobe stylist, and this conversation goes way deeper than clothes. After leaving an abusive relationship, I had zero body confidence. Zero idea what to wear. I did not know what clothes I liked. I did not know what was acceptable. I went from enjoying getting dressed and going to work every day to standing in my closet feeling lost. Chellie works with women
How Power Dynamics Shut Down Women's Desire and Vitality
Pleasure was never just about sex. It has always been about power. What is happening inside women's bodies, inside heterosexual relationships, and inside healthcare systems is not separate from what is happening culturally and globally. These dynamics mirror each other. The same power structures that silence women medically also shut down desire, libido, vitality, and connection in relationships.
Why Being Good at Relationships Leads to Emotional Burnout
Many high-functioning women are successful in their careers and still struggle with intimacy, desire, and connection in their relationships. They feel distant, numb, over-responsible, and exhausted despite doing everything right. When you have super traits, responsibility, empathy, loyalty, and competence, you often become the over-functioner in relationships. You manage emotions. You do the invis
The Labs I Run When Desire, Arousal, and Libido Shut Down
Most women are not fully enjoying the sex they are having. Low desire, arousal issues, pain with sex, numbness, difficulty reaching orgasm, and mismatched libidos are common, yet women are taught to blame themselves for them. We are told it is a hormone failure, a personality flaw, a lack of effort, or something we should accept as we age. We try harder. And when effort fails, shame fills the gap.
What Actually Improves Your Sex Drive When You're a High-Achiever
Women with super traits know how to get shit done. They are hardworking, loyal, independent, and high-achieving. Some want better sex and a deeper connection and cannot figure out why it feels so hard. Others say they don't care about sex anymore, but what they're really saying is I don't feel met. I don't feel safe enough to erotically open. Desire didn't disappear. Effort replaced it. Survival c
Why Loss of Desire Has Nothing to Do With Libido
You do not lose desire. For women with super traits, desire does not disappear. It goes offline when you override yourself one too many times, and your body adapts because it knows it is not safe. We are taught that desire fades slowly. That it is stress, hormones, perimenopause, being busy, or having too much on your plate. In my clinical and coaching work, I see the opposite. Desire shuts down a
Women With Super Traits Over Explain, People Please, and Lose Desire
Over the Christmas break, I had several private clients reach out, and what I noticed was that the transformations had not been completed. The holidays brought up ruptures, disappointments, and old patterns at a time when most women were already running on fumes. The holidays come with extra expectations and very little capacity. Many women even get sick once their bodies finally feel safe enough
Why Communication Advice Fails Women Who Overgive in Relationships
Most relationship advice says relationships are healthy when you communicate. Be open. Share your feelings. Explain your needs. Take responsibility for your emotions. And all of this is true. But it catastrophically fails women with Super Traits. Not because they are bad communicators. Women with Super Traits are great communicators. But they communicate at the cost of themselves. At the cost of t
This is Your Year to Start Receiving Instead of People-Pleasing
Happy New Year. For women with super traits, there is often a quiet exhaustion underneath the hope and desire for more. You have done everything right, and something still is not working. If pleasure, desire, and connection disappear the moment stress enters your relationships, this explains why. This is not a personal failure or lack of effort. It is a body-level adaptation. Women with super trai
My Christmas Wish for Women Who Built Their Identity on People-Pleasing
Christmas has a way of showing us what we have been carrying all year. For many women, this season brings more responsibility, more emotional labor, and more pressure to hold everything together while feeling unseen in their relationships and disconnected from themselves. I spent years overfunctioning in relationships, believing that giving more and trying harder would create safety and connection
Holiday Boundaries to Prevent Burnout and Overfunctioning
The holiday season is a major trigger for women with super traits. There is more emotional labor, more pressure to keep the peace, more overgiving, and more shutdown. When you overfunction during the holidays, it leads to burnout, resentment, loneliness, and a sense of feeling unseen, even when you are surrounded by people. I break down practical holiday survival tips to help you stop overgiving a
Financial Infidelity and Relationship Red Flags You Must Not Ignore
Financial infidelity is one of the most common yet least recognized forms of betrayal. It often begins subtly through missing information (like names not being on the title), restricted access to accounts, unexplained withdrawals, hidden accounts, or financial decisions made without consent. Many women overlook these signs because they appear inside relationships built on trust, love, and shared h
5 Ways Overfunctioning Kills Your Pleasure (and What to Do Instead)
You have done the healing. You know your patterns and your attachment style. You set boundaries and stopped abandoning yourself. Yet when life gets hard, or someone is disappointed in you, you still end up doing the emotional labor. You collapse or you over-function. Your relationships have not shifted as much as you have. Your sex life feels flatter than it should. Your aliveness and turn-on feel
4 Relationship Behaviors That Kill Desire and Create Sexless Marriages #204
You are not frigid. You are fried. When you have super traits, empathy, loyalty, responsibility, and hard work, you end up building your entire relationship around him. You carry the emotional load, the logistical load, and even the erotic load. You hold his stress, his moods, his comfort above your own, and then blame yourself when your desire shuts down. You are not an impossible-to-please crust
Hard Work Creates Emotional Labor and Destroys Intimacy #203
I am recording this sitting on an ice pack with stitches in my vagina. After the delivery of my daughter, there was a tear. They tried to fix it. It didn't really fix. The doctor said to wait until the next baby, and we can repair it then. I thought that made sense. My daughter just turned five. I have been tolerating a tear in my labia that I didn't want to be there. I decided I was done waiting.
Why High-Empathy Women Attract Emotionally Unavailable Partners #202
High-empathy women are praised for their compassion, yet beneath that care often lies exhaustion and loneliness. When empathy becomes survival, it stops being connection and starts being control. Many women who feel deeply spend their lives reading the room, anticipating every tone, and managing everyone else's emotions in the name of love. It looks selfless but becomes self-abandonment. The nervo
#201 Why Successful Women Confuse Control with Love
High-achieving women with super traits know how to make everything work. We plan, manage, fix, and anticipate. We keep the peace and carry the weight for everyone around us. From the outside, it looks like strength and success. Inside, it's emotional exhaustion and the quiet panic of never feeling safe enough to rest. Control becomes our safety. -Apply for the Super Traits Society- Success, intima
#200 It's Not Hormones or Perimenopause Brain Fog. It's Your Body Protecting You
Apply for the Super Traits Society- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don't have to choose. Learn how to take back your power and create a pleasure-filled life without sacrificing who you are or what you've built. [APPLY HERE] Women come into my office every week saying they can't think clearly, they lose words mid-sentence, and they feel like their brains are failing them. They're sure it must b
#199 When Responsibility Turns into Resentment and Desire Disappears
You were praised for being the responsible one. The girl who kept the peace, remembered everyone's birthday, got straight A's, and picked up everyone else's slack. That praise felt like love, but it wasn't love for who you are; it was love for what you did. Now you're the woman holding everything together. You make the meals while your partner plays with the kids. You manage the emotions in the ho
#198 You're Not Codependent You're Surviving Coercive Control
Most women try to fix their relationships or fix themselves. My work isn't about fixing or forcing intimacy. It's about rewiring what led you to believe that depletion was love in the first place. High-achieving women with super traits have been called codependent, people pleasers, and overfunctioners, when the truth is, we were never met. We are not meant to see extractive love, and the smartest,
#197 Why Marriage Benefits Men More Than Women (And Leaves You Exhausted)
Something so simple but so hard for high-achieving women to accept is that we were taught male-centered love, male-centered relating, and male-centered sex. The truth that I denied for months after reading the original research is that marriage benefits him more than it benefits you. He lives longer, he is healthier, he receives emotional stability, caretaking, and the invisible workload, while yo
#196 Why Loyalty Without Reciprocity Isn't Love
I have been hearing from so many women lately. They are separating, considering separation, rebuilding after infidelity, or trying to date again as superwomen with super traits. No matter where they are, they cannot keep going the same way they have been. There is an element of doneness. Super traits like empathy, loyalty, hard work, and forgiveness are the qualities that make us successful. They
#195 5 Habits of the Most Well-Loved and Well-F*cked Women
Women with super traits are praised for their loyalty, empathy, and hard work. These traits make you successful in your career, but they leave you exhausted, resentful, and sexless in your relationships. You give more, you bend over backwards, and you still do not feel met. I am sharing the habits of the most well-loved and well fucked women I know. These women feel their emotions instead of pushi
#194 Why Super Traits Keep High-Achieving Women Lonely and Stuck in Relationships
JOIN US FOR THE FREE Super Trait Masterclass, October 2nd at 1pm ET/10am PT. The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy HERE High-achieving women are praised for their empathy, loyalty, and hard work, but these same super traits often become survival strategies that leave them exhausted, lonely, and stuck in relationships. The very qualities that help women succeed in their careers
#193 How Tone Policing Leads to Loss of Intimacy and Low Libido
Join the FREE Super Trait Masterclass October 2nd, 2025 @ 1pmET/10amPT The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy. JOIN FOR FREE HERE I am feeling direct today, and it could be the eight cortados I had while writing content. There are a few things that are always true after working with thousands of women with super traits. If he cannot handle your tone, he is never going to be
#192 Why Smart Women Get Stuck in Extractive Relationships Instead of Pleasure-Centered Ones
Most high-achieving women don't even realize they are living in an extractive relationship. You give and give in your relationship, in your career, and at home, and wonder why you feel exhausted, unseen, untouched, and unfulfilled. You blame your hormones, your libido, your partner's attachment style, or your parents. You go to therapy, plan date nights, and try lingerie, but none of it works beca
#191 Why You Only Want Sex on Vacation. How to Get Desire Back at Home
Summer is almost over, and I see a lot of my clients getting caught up in loops. You know that version of you that shows up on vacation. The one who laughs more easily, who says yes to sex, who feels lighter and more present in her body. Or maybe, like me, you have lived years experiencing a vacation from a bird's-eye view, outside of your body, because of how burnt out you were. That woman isn't
#190 Why Strong Women Overlook Betrayal and Red Flags in Relationships
Join us in the Pleasure Principles™ Group Program with Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND HERE Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025 I was asked recently why successful, hardworking, intuitive women stay in emotionally harmful relationships. This was me. This is many of my clients. The truth is, we have super traits. The same traits that make us incredible in our career
#189 How to Build a Pleasure-Centered Relationship from the Inside Out
Most women don't need another date night, another vacation, or better communication strategies. What they need is a radical unlearning of everything they were taught about love and intimacy. Because even the good relationships are built on extraction. Not reciprocity. Not mutuality. Not pleasure. If your relationship feels like a second job, if your body is numb, if you've been blaming your hormo
#188 Is He a Great Partner or Just Really Good at Control? The Good Guy Gaslighter
Your nervous system already knows what your mind has been trained not to see. "He's a great guy." "He's a good dad." "He means well." These are the phrases that keep brilliant, high-achieving women stuck in sexless, disconnected, emotionally manipulative relationships. I'm naming the pattern you've been taught not to see… the good guy gaslighter. It's the new face of power and control and it's qu
#187 The Truth About Estrogen & Breast Cancer That No One Is Telling Women
If you've ever been told that estrogen causes breast cancer, or that your mammogram will save your life, or that your only option is to "cut, poison, and burn," this episode is going to challenge everything you've been taught. Dr. Jenn Simmons joins me for an honest conversation about what actually causes breast cancer, why the screening model is flawed, and how functional medicine is changing the
#186 Kink Isn't About Pain It's About Power and Presence
If you've ever been called intimidating, too much, or one of the boys. If you've had to explain how you like to be touched more times than you can count. If the idea of surrender feels terrifying because you're the one who always needs to be in control. This episode is your permission slip. We are talking about kink. Not in the way you think. This is not about whips or pain or anything performativ
#185 10 Phrases That Turn High-Achieving Women On When She is Burned Out (Make Her Want Sex Again)
The 10 Phrases That Make Her Want Sex Again She came on the call overwhelmed, crusty, resentful. She left flushed, smiling, turned on. If you've built your life on doing things right and still feel disconnected from sex, this episode is for you. We are talking about what actually helps high achieving women want sex again. Not dirty talk. Not pressure. Not more performance. These are ten phrases th
#184 Multiple Orgasms Aren't About Skill, They're About Safety
You've read the posts, tried the tips, downloaded the workshops, and still feel nothing. You can orgasm by yourself, but struggle with a partner. Or maybe you're shut down completely and convincing yourself you're over it. You're not. You've just been stuck in survival. High-achieving women with super traits are doing sex backward. You're performing instead of receiving. Doing instead of feeling.
#183 Why Successful Women End Up in Sexless Marriages & What to Do About It
The high-achieving women that I work with fall into two groups. Low desire and checked out because intimacy has become a performance, a task, a source of resentment. Or high desire and confused because sex is one of the only ways they feel close, but their emotional needs aren't being met. And then they're blamed for wanting it too much. No matter which group you're in, you're trapped. And it's in
#182 The Hidden Link Between Stress, Painful Sex & Your Pelvic Floor From A Pelvic Floor Specialist
Superwomen, we need to talk about your pelvic floor. If you've ever apologized during a pelvic exam, felt broken because sex hurts, or wondered if leaking when you laugh is just part of being a mom, this conversation is for you. Pelvic floor physiotherapist Aliya Dhalla joins me to answer the questions most of us are too ashamed to ask. We talk about vulva appearance, labiaplasty, pelvic tension,
#181 Why Couples & Sex Therapy Doesn't Work for High-Achieving Women (Truth About Communication)
Why you don't need to communicate better and other weaponized advice from couples therapy and Instagram influencers. These are the things keeping you stuck in your sexless marriage. If your relationship feels like a never-ending conversation with no lasting change, chances are you don't need to communicate better. You need to understand the concepts of coercive control and power dynamics. Most hig
#180 5 Questions Couples Having Great Sex Are Asking Each Other
You've read the sexy prompts, saved the dirty talk guides, maybe even worked up the courage to send a flirty text and still nothing changes. The card games, therapy scripts, I statements, sandwich feedback, even Nonviolent Communication and it still hurts. You feel alone. It reinforces the belief that you're the problem. But you're not. I'm sharing the 5 questions couples having great sex are aski
#179 Why You're Not Initiating Anymore (And It's Not Low Libido, Hormones or Feminine Energy)
He wants you to initiate. You want to feel seen, supported, and safe. Every week I get a DM from a man asking how to get his wife to initiate sex again. And every time I think, are you really ready to hear the answer? MAKE SEX WORTH HAVING This one is for the woman who's doing it all. The emotional labor. The logistics. The mental load. Desire doesn't just disappear—it gets buried under exhaustio
#178 Scheduling Sex Isn't The Holy Grail Solution to a Sexless Relationship
I used to be the doctor on national television telling couples to schedule sex. I even wrote about it in my book. But I've learned so much since then. Not because scheduling sex is inherently wrong. But for high-functioning women like us, it becomes another setup. Another task. Another way to fail. Scheduled intimacy only works when both partners truly want it. When desire is shared., but when it'
#177 The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex in Your "Good" Relationship
You say your husband's great. Supportive. A great dad. He helps around the house. He doesn't cheat. So why don't you want to have sex with him? If everything looks good on paper but feels emotionally lonely, this episode is for you. We're talking about the invisible power dynamics that cause erotic shutdown, especially for high-achieving women with supertraits like empathy, loyalty, and persevera
#176 Why High-Achieving Women Stop Wanting Sex (And How to Get It Back)
You've done everything right. The degrees. The success. The personal growth. But still… You feel nothing. Sex feels like another thing on your to-do list. You're disconnected, exhausted, and quietly wondering, "What's wrong with me"? I'm breaking down how Superwoman conditioning and invisible power dynamics kill desire. Why therapy, hormones, and even functional medicine haven't worked. And why
#175 Why Sex Therapy Doesn't Work for High-Functioning Women And What Actually Does
You've done the therapy. You've read the books. You've tried to fix it. But if you walked away from couples therapy or sex therapy feeling like you were the problem, this conversation will hit home. I'm exposing the quiet harm that happens when traditional therapy fails to account for power dynamics, emotional labor, and the super traits of high-achieving women. Let's break it down: Why therapy o
#174 - How Fingering Unlocks Female Pleasure, Better Sex, and Lasting Libido
Before the pressure. Before the performance. Before checkbox sex. Pleasure used to come naturally. But somewhere along the way, it got replaced by mental gymnastics, performance-based sex, and trying to earn intimacy instead of receiving it. Jordin Wiggins pulls back the curtain on why fingering, that slow, intentional manual stimulation, is the real key to unlocking female pleasure, better sex, a
#173 - Breaking Through Trauma: Why Your Past is Blocking Your Intimacy Today
Is your body keeping a secret that's ruining your sex life? Discover why that lack of desire, connection, and fulfillment has nothing to do with your hormones, stress levels, or sexual techniques. We're sharing one of our most popular episodes from 2023 where Dr. Jordin Wiggins reveals the hidden trauma response that's blocking your pleasure—even if you don't identify as a trauma survivor—and how
#172 - Why High-Achieving Women Are The Loneliest, Most Under-F**ked People I Know
That well-f**ked feeling. You know the one—after great sex, a delicious meal, or when the champagne bottle pops and the elevator doors slide open at a luxurious hotel. That feeling of possibility, pleasure, and playfulness. How long has it been since you've felt it? In this intimate episode, Dr. Jordin takes you behind the scenes of her recent Pleasure Mastery retreat, where high-achieving women f
#171 - The High Achiever's Dilemma: Redefining Success Through Pleasure Instead of Hustle with Veronica Romney
No woman left behind! In this vulnerable and transformative conversation, Dr. Jordin opens up about the evolution happening within The Pleasure Collective as she partners with client, marketing expert, and author of Identity Marketing, Veronica Romney, to redefine how to ensure every high-achieving woman knows what they deserve and the path to receive it. "The accolades that you are experiencing i
#170 - The 'Not All Men' Defense: How Misguided Beliefs Undermine Women's Power
The moment you say, "I'm exhausted," they say, "but men feel pressure too." The moment you name abuse, they say, "not all men." The moment you ask for more, they say, "you're being too much." This is not compassion. It's manipulation. In this searing episode, Dr. Jordin exposes the subtle and sinister ways women are silenced in the name of "balance"—especially in spiritual and coaching spaces tha
#169 - No Consent, No Trust: The Reality of Porn Addictions
Many high-achieving women find themselves stuck in relationships where trust is broken, intimacy is lacking, and boundaries aren't respected. Sound familiar? Today, we're tackling a raw and real question from a listener: "My partner appears to be addicted to porn. I've confronted him, set boundaries, brought it up in couples therapy, but he continues to lie and hide it. I don't trust him anymore.
#168 - Why High-Achieving Women Dissociate During Sex (And How to Reconnect to Pleasure)
Do you ever find yourself mentally checking out during intimacy—thinking about your to-do list or even feeling "the ick" when your partner touches you? You're not alone. High-achieving women often struggle with dissociation during sex, and in this episode, Dr. Jordin Wiggins is breaking down exactly why it happens and how you can start healing. Dissociation is not a personal failure—it's your ner
#167 - The #1 Lie Keeping Alpha Women in Sexless Marriages
"Doing more is not going to get you what you want. The more you give and sacrifice has an inverse relationship to how well f*cked you actually are." - Dr. Jordin Wiggins, ND You followed all the rules. You built the career, the beautiful home, and made sure everyone else's needs were met. So, why are you feeling resentful, exhausted, and stuck in a relationship that feels more like a business part
#166 - Tight Isn't The Goal. Pleasure Is.
You've been told that a "tight" vagina is desirable. That kegels are the answer. That pain during sex is just something to accept. But what if everything you've learned about your pelvic floor and pleasure is wrong? For high-achieving women, checking off boxes is second nature—except when it comes to intimacy. If you're feeling disconnected, unfulfilled, or like sex is just another task on your to
#165 - "Is It Me Or My Hormones?" The Truth About Low Libido
"Most high achieving women don't have a libido problem. They have a pleasure problem." - Dr. Jordin Wiggins, ND You've tried everything – hormone therapy, antidepressants, countless supplements, even sex therapy – but nothing seems to reignite your desire. As a result, you're left wondering if something is fundamentally broken within you. If this sounds familiar, you're about to discover why the
#164 - How to Move Through Feminine Burnout
As high achievers, we're experts at pushing through exhaustion, ignoring our body's signals, and wearing burnout like a badge of honor. But what happens when your body finally says "enough"? When the whispers of exhaustion become screams you can't ignore? Listen in as Jordin dives into: Her personal experience with feminine burnout and the wake-up call that forced her to stop The five-step plea
#163 - Do High-Achieving Women Secretly Want to Be "Baby Girl-ed"?
High-achieving women have built their lives around independence, control, and success—but beneath the polished exterior, many secretly long to be taken care of, cherished, and adored. The problem? They don't know how to let it in. In this episode, Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND explores the hidden tension between being a powerhouse and craving softness. Inspired by the film Baby Girl, she unpacks why so ma
#162 - The Pleasure Path: What High-Achieving Women Really Need to Hear
There are some conversations about intimacy, connection, and desire that can't be had on a public platform—so Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND created The Pleasure Path, a private podcast for high-achieving women who are exhausted from overfunctioning and still feeling unseen, disconnected, or unfulfilled in their relationships. In this episode, Jordin explains why this private series is her most raw, real,
#161 - 6 Myths About Women's Sexuality & Libido You Need to Unlearn for Better Sex
What if everything you've been taught about sex, pleasure and desire was wrong? If you've ever felt like your libido is fading, your pleasure isn't a priority, or that something is just off in your relationship.. but you can't put your finger on it.. this episode is for you. High-achieving women are often told that intimacy naturally declines with age, that pleasure is a luxury, and that great sex
#160 - The 3 Types of Sexless Relationships High-Achieving Women Create: Which One Are You In?
Are you stuck in a relationship that looks great on the outside but feels unfulfilling behind closed doors? In this episode, Dr. Jordin Wiggins, ND dives deep into the 3 types of sexless relationships high-achieving women often find themselves in, and how to break free from the patterns keeping you stuck. Here's what you'll learn in this episode: The 3 common dynamics of sexless relationships: Po
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